So you got a crush and started to like someone, eh?. Well that's not necessarily the wort thing in the world. Liking people gets a bad rap because it's commonly connected to and confused with lust, which is notorious for bring bad news. It's noting more than a guilty by association type of deal. However, there is a significant difference between LIKE and LOVE -- one that features separate levels of feelings. This is somewhat of a text based contour map that identifies those highs, lows, peaks and valleys
People generally enjoy the early stages and initial feelings of liking someone. The desire to talk and to spend time together. The learning all those details about each other. You've got butterflies in your stomach and mind. Or is that gas filled??? uh-oh, it might be gas!! :p And if it is , you'd better release it around your crush. That's the difference between like and love. LIKE means holding in farts until your stomach aches to preserve your most appealing image. LOVE on the other side will remain unwavering, despite someone letting 'em rip :p . This is romance translated through flatulence - not the most eloquent description.
While that analogy may sound ridiculous, that doesn't make it invalid. Having crushes and liking someone can be altered by a mere pet peeve or silly turnoff whereas love is durable, There are plenty of stories of people going out with someone multiple times but eventually discovering some trivial thing, physically or personality-wise that they aren't fan of . So date number two, three or however many will be the last because of something insignificant.
That's why some people (myself included) hate dating. A lot of the time it feels too much like an audition. Lots of politically correct statements, safe answers, hiding of weakness or flaws - it's like work.Unless you're an outspoken person, in which case you have no shame being frank about things. For those of us with a filter and some insecure tendencies, liking and being liked is too hard labor. We carry around a lumpy sack of giant turnoffs, like a self-conscious Santa clause. Throughout the like stage we do our best to discreetly hide that bag in its entirety, removing flaws from it over time, only when we're comfortable
Then there's love, which is much deeper, much different. it's a thing of beauty. The way love is relaxed, yet still full of passion, similar to those emotions felt when you first met that person. It's no longer about gaining the upper hand. There's no not calling her because she hasn't texted you or flirting with someone to gather more attention. Love will eliminate he imbalance and different degree of feelings seen during LIKE. You can't kind of love a person and they can't sort of love you. You just love each other wholeheartedly, which is so much easier. Everything can be removed from the bag of blemishes, all the gas can be passed and nothing changes. Now that's a thing of beauty. It may not smell so good, but it's certainly a beautiful thing to see
Someone once asked me, what's the worst part of being in love?????
No matter what anyone says to you - real love is a struggle. It is a steep hill, and you have to reach all the way to the top. It is a forest, and you have to reach the center of it. It is a maze, and you have to find the fucking exit :/. It's not a fairy tale. It's not anywhere close to it.
People generally enjoy the early stages and initial feelings of liking someone. The desire to talk and to spend time together. The learning all those details about each other. You've got butterflies in your stomach and mind. Or is that gas filled??? uh-oh, it might be gas!! :p And if it is , you'd better release it around your crush. That's the difference between like and love. LIKE means holding in farts until your stomach aches to preserve your most appealing image. LOVE on the other side will remain unwavering, despite someone letting 'em rip :p . This is romance translated through flatulence - not the most eloquent description.
While that analogy may sound ridiculous, that doesn't make it invalid. Having crushes and liking someone can be altered by a mere pet peeve or silly turnoff whereas love is durable, There are plenty of stories of people going out with someone multiple times but eventually discovering some trivial thing, physically or personality-wise that they aren't fan of . So date number two, three or however many will be the last because of something insignificant.
That's why some people (myself included) hate dating. A lot of the time it feels too much like an audition. Lots of politically correct statements, safe answers, hiding of weakness or flaws - it's like work.Unless you're an outspoken person, in which case you have no shame being frank about things. For those of us with a filter and some insecure tendencies, liking and being liked is too hard labor. We carry around a lumpy sack of giant turnoffs, like a self-conscious Santa clause. Throughout the like stage we do our best to discreetly hide that bag in its entirety, removing flaws from it over time, only when we're comfortable
Then there's love, which is much deeper, much different. it's a thing of beauty. The way love is relaxed, yet still full of passion, similar to those emotions felt when you first met that person. It's no longer about gaining the upper hand. There's no not calling her because she hasn't texted you or flirting with someone to gather more attention. Love will eliminate he imbalance and different degree of feelings seen during LIKE. You can't kind of love a person and they can't sort of love you. You just love each other wholeheartedly, which is so much easier. Everything can be removed from the bag of blemishes, all the gas can be passed and nothing changes. Now that's a thing of beauty. It may not smell so good, but it's certainly a beautiful thing to see
Someone once asked me, what's the worst part of being in love?????
No matter what anyone says to you - real love is a struggle. It is a steep hill, and you have to reach all the way to the top. It is a forest, and you have to reach the center of it. It is a maze, and you have to find the fucking exit :/. It's not a fairy tale. It's not anywhere close to it.
You have to see scars and accept them.
You have to see flaws and accept them.
You have to see imperfections and accept them.
You have to see the person you love doing terrible things, and still love them for who they are.
You have to resist the urge to change them.
You will have their weakest spots in your hands,and
You have to resist the urge to scratch it when the wind blows too hard in your face.
Love is not is loving. Love is in trying to stay in love no matter what. Love is in trying not to fall out . Love is hard, but its worth the efforts.Love is not as beautiful as it is made to sound, but it is still the best thing that can happen to any of us.
